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CAN I SUE MY EX-BOYFRIEND FOR ACCSUING ME OF SENDING HIM THREATING LETTERS?
I dated him last year august his 25yrs older thn me thinking he was mature classy turned in a nightmare. Lets just say he became physically,emotional abusive he threatn me all the time if i said something he find a way to hurt me or my family. At my job he became a patient and behind doors he forced me to touch me or have sex cause that turn him on i had no choice he come in 2x's per week for treatment pulling my hair touching me in flirtacious ways that the patients and emlpoyees must have told my boss by Nove 08' i was fired. I called him to tell him i asked him to call my boss so that he can denie it and atleast clear my name but he refused he said he didnt need my stress. It was the holidays by thanksgiving he broke up w/me i felt so used lonely had to be tight with money severly depress. I had a xmas gift for him that i held he picked it up a flowery shop with a plant congratulating for his new job title as a supervisor he got that title in the month i was fired. I thought that as long as im nice things will be ok he wont hurt me. Before this he wnted me to dress up and talk like a 5yr old im already younger than you how can that turn you on i said? It disgusted me such a turn off for me. He held on to my stuff all this months i got them back this past March which i got it back with male cum and cat pee all over it i left message to the cops on how mu stuff was returned never got a call back and 4months later in March i found a good job with nice people many of his coworkers i treated decided to follow me i also became the practice marketing so i made flyers to get more business. I started to get private calls like crazy in March so i filed a police report incase of anything. My ex decided to file an order of protection against me in april claiming im sending him threating letters and that his depress and all this phony crap. Than i day after i was served i found a note on my car as a threat saying im being watched im wanted dead so i filed another police report. My ex had told me at one point he was getting threat letters in mid november not to long after i lost the job i thought he was lieing wanting more attention, i actually received some in January 09' but didnt pay much attention i needed to go forwrd with my life i needed to get back on my feet somehow and i feel now that ive healed in some way that his claiming to be the victim so that i wont tell speak about what he has done to me. One time he forced himself on me so badly i caught n infection my privates inside peeled bleed and it burned wanting an icebucket i couldnt pee but the urges were there i think they called it blaader infection i had fever chills and the doc said theres a number of reasons to get it and ruff sex is one of them to much of it and thats what it was he never came with me to the hospital for support i ws chrged $300 that i payed alone and here his the victim i swallowed all this do to fear, i would wear scarfs long sleeves to cover bruises. Just a week in getting served i was called by his neighborhood police claiming i viloted that order of protection and i was stunned so if i didnt show up the next day they would arrest me. I showed up with my lawyer i was mugshot finger printed i was humiliated hd court that day as well and it comes down to be that my ex claims he received a threat letter that said CHILD MOLESTER i believe the judge was stunned as well he set me free and i did not post any bond but now i have 2 upcoming court date which i have to show up the part that sucks is that now this whole thing has fallen into criminal do to that the total as of right now is $3,000 in lawyer fees. If my ex was getting letters since november till now and if all this time you thought it was me why wouldnt he press charges then and if he ws scared of me then why the you have the Balls to still go and see what i got you for x-mas when you fear someone you dont want anything to do with them you dont go physically to pick it up His known all this time im the one fearing him, The only ones that know about this are my girlfriends one of them took a few pictures i did this so if something did happen they have some evidence and a picture of both of us, i also have someone who used to work at my old job who never knew that we were dating i kept it low key but she witness how i ws intimadated by him how he grabed pull my hair touching me always wanting control, My friends saw many of his text messages being abusive to bad my phone broke.I didnt want drama at my new job and now i had detectives coming in questioning me in front of my new bosses again im humiliated. Once this nightmare is over what are the chances for me to sue him he has a well paying job im sure good pension, when we were togther he never payed for anything i was used financially as well and he thought i payed the hotels with cash but i did credit card just incase at the beginning it was consentual but then it was threatful he said he has friends that due favor
Public Comments
- That's as self destructive a story as I've ever heard that didn't include a suicide attempt.
- You need to have proof and documentation. Start saving text messages, e-mails, voice mails, notes and letters. Document EVERYTHING. Places, times, what was said and any witnesses you might have.
- Suing him isn't what you should be worried about... getting away from him, and all of his co-worker buddies would be my concern.... If it was me, I would file for a protection order, get a job recommendation from my boss, move to a different city, in a different state... And be more careful who you sleep with....
