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What does it mean when a divorced senior woman looks on a dating website & sees her ex on the first page?

Yahoo kept flashing the ad in front of me & I got curious. Decided to check it out & there he was! I'm 55 & that's his max age. He's looking for a woman that describes me to a T! Is this some strange twist of fate that could be calling out to me? How would you feel if this happened to you? I'm sort of angry...yet it's laughable. It's a good thing I'm not willing to pay to join or I'd have a little fun with the old coot. Any other divorced women ever have this happen to them? Yahoo Personals asks "What makes you happy?" My answer would be, "Not seeing my ex on the first page!" NO NO NO I don't want another man. 22 year of that other one was enough. I just can't believe that the first time I get curious...that this happens to me. I doubt I'll be signing up to make a fool out of myself on a personals site. I can do that right here in this category! LOL! It's a shame he doesn't just say that he's a woman beating pothead with a ton of money. He just says "Don't look at me-look at me". BEWARE of this one ladies! I think it's odd that abusers are so transparent. He says he has a car & a job & he'll tell you his income later. He mentions his kid who is now an adult & says he's divorced...yet doesn't say he's had 2 divorces. I just want to kick myself for spending so much time with this loser who's still looking to a new woman to get over on! Mostly, I feel it's my duty to warn the public to beware of sickos who use these websites to lure unsuspecting women into their lairs.

Public Comments

1. It means that he is looking for another woman. If you want another man, just put your picture and description of what kind of guy you want in the free sign up part and let him see YOUR picture.... What goes around comes around. heh heh! When he sees you in there he is going to have the same feeling that you had when you saw him. Have some fun.
2. I'm wondering how a young man of 55 could be considered an 'old coot'. Another ten years from now, you may have a clearer idea of what an 'old coot' really is. Basically, it sounds like he hasn't gotten you out of his system. If he's looking for the same basic requisites as you offered him at one time. Unless he knows you use a Yahoo address where you might see the ad, maybe it's coincidence. But it could be a means to seek you out. Only he knows the answer. I'd be just that curious to find out. And take a 30 day free trial if they offer it.
3. oh that's just funny. it would piss me off for a while but I'd be laughing in histerics by the days end.
4. Well I would think that you made such a good impression on him regardless of how it worked out, that he wants someone just like you again. I would think it is a compliment to you and to tell the truth, if my wife and I ever split or if she passed away, I'd spend a lot of time trying to find someone just like her though I know that doesnt happen. You are his experience and what he was used to and apparently wanted but he just didnt know it at the time. Still, signing up and playing a little tag would be funny. Reminds me of that song about Pina Colladas and him meeting his actual wife when on the lookout for someone else.
5. That goes to show - it's a small world. Wow! Hope you ignore it. Let that "old coot" swim down stream and take flight. DeeJay.
6. This guy sounds like the type who likes to use a woman. You should feel annoyed that he is looking for someone like you. Think about it. Just be glad he is out of your life. Move on and enjoy life as you see fit.
7. If this ex husband was as terrible to you as you say, I would play the game the other person talked about. Don't put any picture on it and write a description and make him druel because you know him so well you can draw his attention to your screen name and you. Ask him questions about marriage and his ex, ask about his child and ask him if he has a police record of any kind. Play him and ask questions of him that you always wanted answered.
8. I have an unusual email name, and years ago in a writer's chat room met a buncha other writers. One was a woman who later joined an online dating service and met my ex who'd advertised himself. When they talked, he told her my email name was his ex. She wrote me reminding me how we met, asking what she should know about him! Talk about a small world!
9. Hopefully he won't abuse someone else,
10. i would just move on...you really don't want a part of his abuse anymore...he'll never change..don't make it wasted energy on him
11. I divorced my ex long before the internet exploded into dating sites. Funny thing though, I always expected to see a segment about him on America's Most Wanted, possibly wanted for beating a woman to death. My sweet revenge was to out live him.
12. I don't consider 55 an old man..you two are divorced so he is getting on with his life.. But what made you look on that site in the first place . You say 22 years of him was enough . So why even look at a dating site? Do you think you are kidding yourself and really you want another partner too ?
13. You are still hurting from the abuse...that does not mean you haven't gotten over him, just that the scar is still there. Unfortunately, if you try to seek revenge by contacting him, you will only hurt yourself, possibly opening old wounds. He can't be hurt by your actions as he probably just doesn't have the ability to care.
14. When people get hooked up over the internet they are buying a pig in a poke. Most people tend to exaggerate or leave out certain things and some outright lie. What this would tell me is that he's lazy and is looking for an easy way to connect with women and that he's not getting any of his friends to introduce him to nice ladies. He probably enjoyed your relationship until you had enough so is looking for another you that he can control. Anyone who answers his ad is an adult so they should be aware of what they are doing and the risks. I'd just ignore him unless you want to print out his picture and write "lier and abuser" on it and post it all around town.
15. Just because you had one bad experience, don't throw out the baby with the bath water. I suspect you are looking more for a companion and not a husband. If you meet them in a public place for lunch you'll be safe. Drive your own car, don't let him pick you up at your house. If he passes the initial metting, the two of you could meet at a nice restaurant, or movie' Perhaps you'll just make a new friend and not a man who wants to marry right away. The man that is right for you won't just come knocking on your door and sweep you away on a white horse. Look at the men you meet as someone you want for a close friend, not a husband.
16. Talk about fate, that is funny. I don't know what it means, but you gotta admit it is entertaining.
17. Oh my...I am sure you will have fun with this. In my case, the federal government would be advised...abuse, bigamy,abandonment, just to name a few.
18. Hey Me-She With all the glitches in Yahoo, maybe, just maybe Yahoo thinks he's the "catch" of the week, so he's front page. LOL. 22 yrs wasted is enough, don't look back, we have both been there and done that with abusive realtonships. There's no way to warn women when they get on dating websites about our ex's, they lie and sweep these lonely, love starved women off their feet, the women are either experienced enough to see what's happening, or the men get another victim to abuse. Depending on how you were when you all divorced, it could be a compliment to wanting someone just like you were, or he could be searching for someone else submissive to continue beating down.