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I need a Christian guy and girl perspective; yes its a pitiful question about dating =/ plz help!?

IM SORRY ITS KIND OF LONG! As I've said in many of my answers/questions, I am a really strong Christian, so dating isnt important to me. If it happens, it happens. And i rarely grow to like someone A LOT, since im not even looking for or pursuing anyone. It just isnt a concern of mine. However, there's this one guy that i've liked for about a year now, and me and him have talked in depth about the situation, and we have agreed to be friends. It was super hard at first, and still kind of is. It's like a rollar coaster for me. Some days I dont even think about it, yet others its impossible not to. And the reason me and him connect so well is that we are both Christians and we have in depth conversations about it all the time. He's pretty much the only one who understands that part of me, and I like to believe we are on the same page. We are really good friends, and we trust eachother, even though sometimes it's hard for me to believe him when he says he trusts me , or he says he loves me. People at my school really are surprised when they hear that him and i are friends; he's the senior jock, i'm the sweet, friendly sophomore girl. (sorry this is long, i'm just giving some background) Some people would say "whatta freak, dont ask advice on yahoo answers." well folks, i have best friends, and we talk about it a lot. I just want a different perspective. So basically, I need to get over him. It's so hard, because I do love him, I love him a lot. And I just want him to be happy, and if that means without me, than so be it. But i need to stop wishing it were something else; I dont know how. 10 Points Definitely Me and him have talked about this many times before, because i was always confused because he wasnt very clear. Did he like me, but not want to date to focus on God? or Did he not like me, and was being honest? He told me that he just isnt interested in anybody, and needs to focus on God. And that was months ago, much has happened since. So i need to get over him To Tracy: Everything you said was so right on the nose, it made me cry. It was beautiful, thank you.

Public Comments

1. If you like him and he likes you, go for it. this is a once in a lifetime shot and its not a sin to date. If he doesnt like you, then just be his very best friend. good luck to you and i hope this works out
2. If you like him, DATE him.
3. If I understand this he is not wanting to make any commitments to you as to marriage or any long term relationship? He just wants to be friends? I am so sorry to say this but he is just not that into you. When a guy says he wants to just be friends he means it. women have all kinds of signals and meanings and signs. Guys don't! When I dated it was this girl and that one and in the end I said let's just be friends. when I met my wife it was totally different, I felt I had enough friends I wanted to get married to her. It has nothing to do with religion or abstance or how long you have known each other. As long as you have been together and he has not made a move means he isn't.
4. Follow your heart and Pray to Jesus Christ. :)
5. Why try to *get over him* if you are not pushing the *more* issue ? That makes for a better relationship, being friends first... many make the mistake of just marrying *because* or it *feels* right...... I would, if I may suggest ? Just kinda go with the flow.... My middle son, who will soon be 30, just proposed to his g/f, and they have dated for years.... I might add, she is 6 years younger, and so he waited for her to be mature enough and *grown up*..... You will know when and or if the time is right for the 2 of you, and so will he... If it ever is !! If NOT you both will also know that !!! Just relax and live..... School, friends, activities and just , like I said LIVE !! Get a journal and that way you can put down your thoughts and emotions, and can deal with them..... hope this helps just a little..... go in peace.... God bless *edit* great way to say it Tracy !!!! I would listen to Tracy !!!!
6. Pray to God for guidance.....because we are not to lean on our own understanding, God has a perfect plan for you and when it's meant to be, God will work it out, so far you haven't felt that so maybe it's not God's plan and time right now, maybe this is a test. It is a temptation to constantly think about someone and whether we are to be with them or not and it's so frustrating because the more we think about it and that person, the more we like them and the more frustrating it is because we want to know whether to pursue it or not, all this confusion God does not want. When we make God number 1 truly, God will then give us the desires of our hearts. As long as we desire something else more than we desire God, we will continue to be frustrated....you know a lot of the Christian people I see say I was searching for someone for so long and didn't find that person, it's when I truly gave it to God and put him first and didn't think about pursuing anyone that I met this person and now we're married, so from what I've seen in a lot of people's lives is that when we truly give our desires to God and trust Him to bring the right person God has destined us to be with and that includes releasing anyone in particular, not holding on to that hope of being with that one person specifically, because that means we are not really trusting God, it means we are going with our own momentary feelings, which is unreliable, Only when we do this, are we allowing God to show us His Perfect plan and purpose. Give your heart to Jesus and you will have peace that your heart is in the right hands, He will take care of it. ....basically, to get over someone, don't think about them, focus your heart and mind on Jesus, He Loves you more than anybody ever could and ultimately He is what every heart truly desires, whether they know it or not, everybody else will fall short of our heart's desire to love and be loved. I hope this helps God Bless
7. if you like him and he likes you, then you should go for it! i am kind of having the same problem myself, though not to the same degree as you. But I think if he says that he loves you and things of that nature, and since you guys get along so well, it wouldn't hurt to give it a try. But be careful because if it doesn't work out, it could hurt your friendship. You guys should talk to each other about it and see what is going on because he may like you and is just afraid to tell you. But if you really do want to get over it, just take it one step at a time. Pray about it either way (if you want to date him or if you don't) and ask God to shed some light on the situation and what you should do and how you should approach it. I hope this helps!
8. Tracy is right. My two cents' worth: There's nothing wrong or un-Christian about dating, we are meant to have a mate. You have a long time ahead of you to find "the one."